The Focus is You


A recent advertisement on how women should focus on financial investments for themselves has hit a chord with many women – and a chord that extends beyond the tangible definition of investment. Because the intangibles are the ones that help one extend one’s boundaries beyond

Women, by and large, tend to be seen as nurturers – of families, of friends, of anyone who brings out those instincts in them. Except for themselves.  They forget to nurture themselves with the same commitment – whether it is about making the investment in their physical wellbeing, emotional health, spiritual growth or intellectual and professional development.

But, it’s high time women changed this mindset (we’ve seen our mothers do this all their lives, and now we must step away from that mindset). What important to remember, though, is that believing in yourself is not the same as investing in yourself.  You, as a woman, can have a strong sense of self belief, but translating that into concrete action is what defines investment.

You may wonder that while it is easy to realize that you need to focus on change, what kind of concrete steps are needed to cause this change to take place.

Here are some basic tips that you can keep in mind and remind yourself of, in a conscious manner, as frequently as possible.

  • Physical Wellbeing – Your health is priority. It is non-negotiable. It is unequivocally critical. So, take steps to preserve as well as improve it. Even with physical wellness, it is not about how you look, it is about how you feel within. Invest time, effort and knowledge in understanding how to sustain your health at all points in time.
  • Emotional Health and Spiritual Growth– Your dreams and aspirations are important. No one should make you feel otherwise. You should also be aware of the fact that you alone can anchor them and take them to the next level. Life will come in the way and you will put things on the backburner. But be cognizant of the dreams and aspirations that have been unfulfilled so far and how they impact your emotional health. Then you need to work towards closing the gaps and fulfilling them, by investing in tools that will enable you to close it.
  • Intellectual and Professional Development – Another aspect women neglect is investing in their intellectual stimulation and professional development. So while they aspire to return to work or continue with their careers after some life-changes, they tend to ignore the fact that investing in aspects such as mentoring workshops, self-learning webinars, community interactions, peer networking are all methods of propelling one’s career to the next stage of growth, particularly when you are returning to work. Focus on what excites your mental faculties and pushes you to learn further. Invest in knowledge that not only enhances your past learning, but also adds to your new learning base.

If women start using this three-dimensional approach, they can make a huge difference to their own wellness. Investing in yourself is all about commitment and consistency – so carrying out the required actions in a committed and consistent manner, is what yields results. This is especially true for women since many of them tend to neglect these aspects when it applies to them

By Simran Oberoi

Simran Oberoi is an independent HR Consultant in Bangalore, with HR Advisory, Knowledge Development and Research expertise of over 13 years, in Rewards & Compensation, Diversity & Inclusion, Talent Development, HR & Social Media. She has worked with consulting firms like Hay Group, Aon Hewitt and PricewaterhouseCoopers in the past, in India as well as Asia-Pacific leadership roles. Simran is also a keen baker – you can find her recipes at


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